Worry is a Lack of Confidence (AND an Energy Killer)

Corrie Ten Boom Worry Strength

Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow. It empties today of its strength.
~ Corrie ten Boom (1892-1983)

I am often described as outgoing, boisterous, happy, and, yes, a bit obnoxiously perky (especially for those not as excited about the earlier hours). And those things (even the tendency towards the obnoxious) are true.

However, those who know me well will also tell you I also have a tendency to be anxious. My anxiety is sometimes warranted by actual causes for concern. More often, unfortunately, it is just a malfunction in the way I am wired; a reminder that I am, in fact, human and should remain gracious to all because we all have our challenges.

Having dealt with this for a really long time, I have gotten really good at talking myself down. I won’t bore you with the ins and outs of mindfulness based cognitive behavioral strategies or how diet and exercise really do matter. I will tell you that while it all works and I am very thankful for it, it is exhausting.

This is primarily the reason I am also know as an optimist. You will here me repeatedly say things like, “don’t borrow trouble,” “make one decision at a time,” “will will cross that bridge when we get there,” or, my favorite, “let’s step back and make sure we are looking at this right.”

Too often we create more worry by entertaining exaggerated worry over situations that actually require little if no worry at all. At which point we then proceed to escalate the situation. The situation needs attention. We worry. Worry makes us distracted, less focused, hesitant, and less capable to employ our abilities. This makes any situation worse. By the time we have worried all over it, we have created something to worry about!

Today I want to encourage you to focus on confidence. The number one reason for worry, insofar as I can tell, is lack of confidence in ones ability to handle whatever happens next. The future is the largest producer of anxiety. This is so unfortunate because the future holds so much hope and promise! The present is where our potential works and the future is the enjoyment of that success! To sabotage that and to steal that from ourselves is all we achieve when we worry. Our strength lives in certainty, assurance, and joy. That’s a much better basket of tricks than worry.

Eaten up from Nose to Tail

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It is the hardest thing in the world to frighten a mongoose, because he is eaten up from nose to tail with curiosity.
~Rudyard Kipling, The Jungle Book

Fear sucks. I have experienced my fair share of it and, quite frankly, I can do without it. I understand that it can be a positive motivator for some folks. I get that the rush it induces in some is a welcomed side effect. I am not one of those people.

Therefore, I spend a pretty good bit of time trying to train myself to not be afraid. Sometimes it works. Too often it doesn’t. I can’t function like that.

Just trying to decide whether or not reviving TAT after all the time away was scary.

Then I recalled today’s quote and it seemed to relate.

I am curious about what I would say if I started again. I was curious if others would be interested. I was curious if even I myself would be interested. I was ate up with curiosity about what it would look like if I harnessed the energy it took to put the nouns and the verbs together in this way again.

That’s when the fuller truth in regards to the relationship between fear and curiosity made sense to me. Fear is, for the most part, just not knowing. What if? Who knows? Is it possible? What is it? How can that be? All those questions can be very, very scary (at least they are for me).

Today I am encouraged to fight fear with curiosity. If I have to experience an emotion towards the unknown, I will attempt to do that with the wonder so often displayed by children versus the paralyzation that accompanies adult sized fears. What was the last thing that sparked your curiosity? In our busy lives I have noticed it is sometimes the curious nature that takes the backseat to the tried and true. There is time to wonder and explore. And for me, knowing is a lot less scary.

 

*TAT 1/27/15

Turn Around Tuesday

“So it’s not who you know. It’s who knows you.” – Athol Kay, Realtor, blogger, photographer

Today’s social media community driven by high powered technology has made the world a much smaller place. We can connect, conference and do business with people from all over the world from the comforts of our own home. Create some travel plans and you can do it in person.

If this smallness does nothing else, it creates choice. Choice in who to interact with personally and who to do business with professionally. With all this choice, the particular product or service is no longer the selling point – the person behind it is.

This translates into a surge of networking venues – shaking hands, passing cards, and “getting your name out there.” However, your name is just like your product or service – not so much important when compared to the person behind it.

It is easy to get wrapped up in the process of meeting “the person to know.” Whether you are in a new town or the place you grew up, there is always talk of “the person you need to connect with. While this may be true, don’t ever forget that sentence has a follow up thought – “And needs to connect with you.”

Today I encourage you to remember the truth in “quality, not quantity,” and recognize how it applies to your relationships. When someone gets to know the wonderful person you are, your name won’t be a problem. Remember – when you are out meeting “the people to know,” you are one of those people yourself.

Pink Cadillac for a Good Cause

Savannah AMBUCS is gearing up to host their 31st annual Cadillac Party. While the party may not be until February 2nd – the the preparation time is now.

For those who haven’t heard, AMBUCS is a service organization dedicated to “creating independence and opportunities for people with disabilities.”

You can find out more about AMBUCS and the Cadillac Party on the web.

Donations, tickets, sponsorship and all other offers of assistance are greatly appreciated. You can ask questions about or provide any of these things by calling Alchemy of Savannah.

On a side note – I will be UnFacilitating the Working Mommy Blogger Breakout Session with Ginger Heidel at BlogSavannah UnConference ’08. Registration is free on the website.

Today’s quote was found at Athol Kay’s RE Agent