Archives for August 2011

Warrior, Hero, Challenge Crusher

In fact, I am nothing more
than a loud mouth
with a fighting spirit and
a desire to drive attention to a cause
that has tried to strike me down.

~ @TheRealClint

It is always interesting to watch how a person responds to being called a hero. Those who expect it typically don’t deserve it. Those who are humbled and appreciative typically do.

Observing how some respond to challenges often creates an array of emotion. Watching my friend Clint battle cancer, wrestle with the labels, attention, and new role have brought to mind battles within my own family, challenges of different kinds and responses that occur when we suddenly feel the wall at our back.

It is during these moments when it is the most possible to determine exactly what it is we are made of. In these times, impossible becomes possible. Weakness becomes strength. Fear becomes secondary. Love becomes everything.

It is in this discovery that challenges become important. Of course given the choice, there are some challenges that I would let you keep and I will deal with some things going unlearned. However, we don’t get that choice. Life is what life does.

And when life does, the only thing left to do is for us to respond accordingly. If that means getting real vocal, mustering up that fighting spirit and latching on to a desire, then I say that challenge just became defeatable.
Today I encourage you to spend some time with your inner warrior. Too often we allow our responses to be reactionary and led by choices not of our own making. Instead, acknowledge that you are a powerful being in your own right. While a great many of our circumstances are not within our control, our voice and our fighting spirit are. While we may long for a different path, the truth is we have to walk the path we are on. When there is no option but to display a hero’s will and a fighter’s strength, it is good to know our inner warrior is more than capable of taking on the battle.

Thanks for the coffee,

**Photo Credit to Sébastien Bertrand

Vitamins & Supplements to Live by Guide to Your Health

Heart Health – UBIQUINOL – Ready to Fight Free Radicals

The Active Antioxidant Form of Co Q-10

Ubiquinol is the “active antioxidant” form of the popular nutrient Co Q-10. Regular Co Q-10 supplements must be converted in the body to Ubiquinol in order to provide antioxidant protection. But as we age, we lost the ability to convert Co Q-10 into Ubiquinol. Ubiquinol supplements are pre-converted, highly absorb-able and “ready to burn” as soon as they are taken. By supplementing with Ubiquinol, you are providing your body with an active form that is ready to fight the harmful free radicals that may contribute to the premature aging of cells.

In one study, 127 men of varying ages had their blood analyzed to determine the ration of Ubiquinol to Co Q-10. The results revealed that as subjects’ ages increased, the ratio of Ubiquinol to Co Q-20 decreased – leading the researchers to suggest the importance of supplementing with Ubiquinol throughout the aging process. In another clinical trial, researchers found that people who supplemented with 90 mg of Ubiquinol daily for four weeks experienced up to a 4 fold increase in blood Ubiquinol levels. The Ubiquinol levels then dropped after supplementation stopped, underscoring Ubiquinol’s importance.

  • Appears in almost every cell in the body
  • Supports healthy aging
  • Promotes energy production
  • Functions as a powerful antioxidant
  • A powerful weapon in supporting heart health
  • Supports brain health

Yours in Health,

Nikki Palmer



Daring The Real Clint to Unfollow ME

I often pitch and sway between the ideas of writing consistently or comfortably. I know I have been told many times “you gotta be consistent.” Most folks smarter than me will insist on schedule and timeliness of posts, coherent thought…meh, I am going with “whatever.”

As I am certain I have said before (both sourced and pretending that it was my own) it is not about technology, it is about behavior (h/t Jeff Turner).  If there was a purpose to the idea that I made your phone ring every even day during the odd months and odd days during the even months, well maybe I would do that. However, if I am placing the call just to make the phone ring, well now, that’s a waste of both of our time, isn’t it?

So true is blogging and tweeting and facebooking and all that other neat stuff I love. And oh the cute little toys they come up with in these little places. The newest one I found was Follow Friday Helper. I found it because my bald-headed super hero friend is considering unfriending folks for using it. I think I mean more to him than that. I hope he doesn’t call my bluff.

But wait, Clint! What if I take the technology (Follow Friday Helper) and infuse it with behavior (my sunny personality) and do it something like this…

Follow Friday Helper Tweeps

@mommahopeful – With her sword swinging son, this Momma can take over the world! Authentic is a cliché until you read Heather’s blog The Hopeful Elephant.  This female is the cat’s meow, strength personified. And she isn’t perfect. She doesn’t pretend to be. This makes her all the more wonderful.

@innatmulberry – Yeah it’s a business account. But if you live in the coastal area, plan to visit our fine spot on the map, or want to see a great example of business twitter done well, this is a great follow. I am learning things I didn’t even know (and I am amazingly local!)

@bnix – Brad is a worthy follow based on his shoes alone. If you need more than that, frankly we need to discuss your priorities. But since you insist, Brad is so smart it is stupid to think about. His innovative style is taking his piece of the world by storm and it is some exciting stuff to watch. Makes me wish he was doing it closer to the coast. Oh, and his wife is gorgeous.

@idoandbabiestoo – This female has every single quality that I look for in folks to follow – she is smart, beautiful, funny, local and beleives in the cyber cheers and toasts. Oh, and she is super good at stuff I am totally bad at (which is interesting since I have, in fact said “I Do and Babies Too”)

@mumsysrefuge – My newest online friend. She is encouraging, honest, and soulful. Not to mention, her blog header is one of the coolest I have seen in a while. This is my new friendship gift to her.

@unicornbeauty – Host to one of the neatest ideas I have seen in a while. It is kinda throw back to the original blog days of online hang out and meet ups in the comment sections of a blog. I don’t know if it still goes on now, but this is the first I have seen in a minute. And she picked me. I appreciate that. I pick her back.

And that, is my #FF via Follow Friday Helper…here is hoping @TheRealClint still thinks I am “#kickingbutt.”


In my coffee maker…Right NOW!


I was Sent to the Principal’s Office

Ok, so maybe I wasn’t sent to the principal’s office. But my Turtle was. In kindergarten. The Principal’s Office. For whacking a kid in the face with a book. Her little friend no less.

She doesn’t know why she did it – she just did. Little friend didn’t hit her first, say something mean, look cross-eyed, stick a tongue out – nothing to which I could defend this outburst of brutality. My sweet little Turtle just attacked without provocation.

I won’t lie, my first thought was, “Holy shit, they are going to think I am that kind of mother.” It was actually my first, third, ninth, twenty-second, thirty-eighth, this morning’s thought of the day…you get the idea. Of course I had other thoughts like, “What is the appropriate reaction,” “is the victim ok,” “what kind of trouble is Turtle in at school,” “are the girl’s parent mafia thugs who are gonna hunt my family down.”

Ok, so I didn’t think that last thing at all.

But I really was am concerned about the conversation happening at the little girl’s house.

I wrote a letter to the teacher explaining that we do not tolerate that type of behavior and please pass our feelings on to the offended family. I thought about it all night. I considered rewriting the letter to try to convey more remorse. I thought about it this morning. I am obviously thinking about it now.

I feel like I am the one who has been waiting outside the principal’s office. Waiting to be weighed and measured. Waiting to be found wanting. Waiting to be judged.

Seriously?!? I am a grown damn woman. Must investigate this dumbass response and figure out what has got my knickers twisted.

The truth is a good many parents feel over whelmed in this way. We are bombarded with media images of snotty ass kids and their over indulgent parents. God Bless I Am: A Flippy Doodle for really marching this point home with the timely post on bratty kids.

All over the place, parents are relentlessly forced to watch children behaving badly. And, bless their hearts, after we get cut screens of the parents, we realize it really isn’t their fault – Mom and Pops are crazy! We watch peas get thrown, heads get bashed, rooms destroyed, fits thrown, and all other manner of perfectly good reasons why I am certainly pro spanking. And all the time mom just rolls her eyes, dad acts like he doesn’t have a clue and kid gets exactly what they wanted in the first place – so they will do it again – instead of a big old dose of “I-am-the-Momma-punk.”

As a parent, I see flashes of my Turtle walking the streets of Jersey Shore talking about how she used to throw down all the way back in kindergarten. That’s right punk, she’s hard like that. Too bad her Momma didn’t raise her better. Probably didn’t pay any attention to her. Probably just hung out and blogged about it. It’s hard coming from a piece of crap family.

And I want nothing more than to shout at the top of lungs “I am not a bad momma and Turtle is not a bad kid! We just had an unfortunate minute!”

And why should I even feel that? Her daddy and I did talk to her. She is very sorry. She was put on punishment and she was even more sorry. She felt bad about it today and apologized to everybody.

I have long quit letting “other mommies” create the benchmarks by which I grade myself. I need to add the products of those “other mommies” to the list. Not gonna let over indulged children or their breeders put me in a funk.

P.S. Little Friend’s Mommy, we are really sorry. I hope she is feeling better. Turtle tells me they are really good friends and they have hugged and made up. I say that not because I want you to think good of me and my family, but because your child should not have to go through. Turtle was handled. I hope we get to meet soon.

**Photo credit to Eric Castro

Vitamins & Supplements to Live by Guide to Your Health

Heart Health – FLAXSEED – An Abundant Source of Essential Fatty Acids

One of the Most Concentrated Plant Sources of Omega-3s Found in Nature

Flaxseed Oil contains important Omega-3 fatty acids and provides one of the most concentrated vegetarian plant sources of Omega-3 fatty acids found in nature. Flaxseed Oil is also naturally full of heart-healthy nutrients.

A study found that a Flaxseed supplement can support healthy blood flow and total blood cholesterol and LDL levels.

A study on women showed that Flaxseeds can support heart health through the maintenance of healthy cholesterol levels.

  • One of the most concentrated vegetarian plant sources of Omega-3 fatty acids found in nature
  • Contains Alpha Linolenic Acid and Linolenic Acid
  • Naturally contains heart healthy nutrients
  • Can support healthy cholesterol levels that are already within a normal range

Yours in Health,

Nikki Palmer



Klout Doth Think You Protest Too Much

Ok, so I don’t really speak for Klout. Historically, in fact, I tend to stay away from these kinds of posts all together. I leave them to the much more technologically educated forces than myself. But, I poked fun yesterday and it got me thinking a bit.

In a tweet conversation yesterday, Travis Robertson mentioned that Klout had listed “parenting” as one of his influential topics – except, while I am certain he and his wife will make beautiful babies, they haven’t done that yet. We jested awhile as you can see.

Poking fun was easy because Klout has taken a bit of a smacking lately. It has been proven quite a few times that the system can be gamed. Jeff Turner did an amazing job illustrating this point. But Jeff is smarter than the average bear, so I think the joust was a teeny bit unfair.

I thought about that for a while because I have found my Klout score to be quite useful – and that was BEFORE I received nearly $50 worth of free Clinical Strength Secret Deodorant (slick disclosure).

When it comes to chatting with my friends, I could care less about Klout (which is probably how I ended up influential in “vodka”). But when it comes to actual effectiveness in communication, Klout can be an excellent mirror.

Klout scores provide more than just a number. My two favorite metrics are topics and style. The topic pages will be out soon. There are currently 16 different Klout styles. These two pieces of information attempt to gauge how you act and what you act upon.

My first encounter with Klout was embarrassing – it showed that all the “work” I was doing on Twitter was really just water cooler conversation. The score was low, sure. But more importantly, my list of influential topics contained NONE of the ways I actually made money. The closest thing was ReTech South. And while I was thrilled to be influential in that, speaking engagements – which I am totally available for – are not really my full-time gig (yeah shameless plug).

So, I set out to adjust my Twitter interaction. And Jeff is totally right – Klout is a game. That scorekeeper provided some pretty good information and I was more mindful (mostly) about my Twitter content.

I checked Klout again. Sure my score went up. But more importantly, my topics changed. That’s a plus. However, my style was that of a “Broadcaster.” While that is perfect for some folks mission – it is not so much for mine. So, I went back to my social media goals and strategy and tweaked the process.

So, did Jeff and I both “game the system?” Sure we did. But the purposes were different. He gamed it to show it could be manipulated. This is an important point. Just like SEO, Facebook fan/friend numbers, Twitter followers, search engine ranking etc. can be gamed and taken in context when used as a tool for judging credibility, so too should Klout. It is not THE thing or the ONLY thing – but it is A thing.

I gamed it to provide accountability to my social media strategy. I used its metric system to keep a numerical pulse of my activity in a way that I just can’t.

It is obvious Twitter is still a social place for me. I am influential about things like bacon (thanks Mike!), juice and couponing. But real estate is on the list now and my style is more of a contributor.

The summary thought is the whole “baby/bath water” idea. Do I think Klout can use some improvement? Sure. But what they have is a pretty good start. And I am not fixing to put my score in my advertisements or on my website. But I continue to monitor it in the same way I monitor my website stats.

The best evidence is the results of Travis’ parenting Q&A yesterday. Seriously, Klout was dern near prophetic on this one.  

Reclaiming Strength

Don’t judge your insides
by someone else’s outsides

~ Author Unknown
~ Laurie Davis gets the credit

I have no idea where today’s quote originated. Evidently, from my web search, no one else really does either. So, my girlfriend who reminded me of it gets the credit. Why? Because really, there isn’t anything new to be said – just awesome people who take the time out of their day to say it. I appreciate her and its my column.

I am feeling fantastic. I have made some serious schedule adjustments and (nearly) daily exercise is my new best friend. I have traded cigarettes for healthier eating. And (gasp!) I have even gotten my kids to agree to try whole food mac and cheese and apple sandwiches. And so far, it has been pretty easy. Know why? The folks I am surrounding myself with make it easy.

So often I allow myself to get thrown off track by the “gurus.” You know those folks. Whatever habit you are trying to kick or start, they are the expert. They never get it wrong and, quite frankly, us mortal beings are kinda useless if we don’t “get it.” The Internet is full of these folks – usually trying to get your money into their wallet. They berate, belittle, judge and condescend. It is a beautifully encouraging thing…really…hmmm sarcasm.

Luckily for me, I have finally learned how to steer clear of those information sources. The neat byproduct of that is I found some new really good ones. They are real folks with real lives and real flaws and real challenges and real success. Yes! You heard me right! We are not the only ones! And they take time out of their day to educate and encourage. I am the excited beneficiary of that encouragement.

I took that encouragement and applied them to “my things.” I had a desire to change some of my health habits. Is this everybody’s “thing.” Nope. And that is okay. This is not a “hey I am getting healthy now everybody needs to go get healthy” charge. The truth is I am still at the really early stages of this journey. I could crash and burn any moment. This is simply me sharing with you that support is good, encouragement is good and mean people do not have the corner market on great information.

Today I encourage you to embrace the idea that we are all not so different. While your thing is not always my thing, we all have them. I am over being told that I am somehow defective because my challenges are different from the ones someone else has. There are too many people in the world to sit at the feet of those who make you feel like crap. Let me be the one to tell you today that you are wonderful. I am wonderful. We are amazing! Cheesy much? Yeah maybe. But hey, if other folks can get away with tearing down, I can take a minute to build up. It is the least I can do after all the support I have gotten and continue to get. I am looking for ways to return the favor.

Thanks for the coffee,**Photo credit to Bobbi Miller-Moro

Vitamins & Supplements to Live by Guide to Your Health

Heart Health – FISH OILS – Omega-3s from the Seas

Natural Sources of Omega-3 Fatty Acids

In this age of fast food and frozen meals, most Americans today aren’t getting enough of the Omega-3 fatty acids – naturally found in fish oils – in their diets. Omega-3s are important for supporting heart, circulatory, immune system, metabolic and cellular health, making supplementation with Fish Oils extra important.

Studies have shown that Fish Oil supplements containing Omega-3s can support triglyceride health, by helping to maintain triglyceride levels already within a normal range.

A study on men found that supplementing with 3 grams of Fish Oil per day supported cholesterol health and also improved measures associated with smooth blood flow.

A study found that, in women, 3 grams of Fish Oil supported triglyceride health in younger subjects while supporting cholesterol health in older subjects.

  • Play a major role in cardiovascular health
  • Support the immune and nervous systems
  • Vital for normal cell growth
  • May help support healthy joints

Yours in Health,

Nikki Palmer


Thank’s For Making Me A Fighter

Alrighty, so I already know I am going to regret using that title when I decide to post my Rocky Balboa “let me tell you something you already know” post or “The 10 ways I do and don’t want my kids to be like Christina Aguilera”. But, in my attempt to live more in the here and now, I am running with it – even if, while sincere, it is a bit overstated.

It has been an amazing week. It started with this little “damn I shouldn’t have eaten that pizza after midnight/Jerry Maguire” post {In My Own Skin}. It grew into a wonderfully supported and seemingly universally guided fireball of affirmation. I love it when you make decisions and it seems like the whole existence has been called down to confirm you choice. It doesn’t happen to me very often, so I enjoy it when I can.

I am going to the gym, working out, wearing sunscreen and getting serious about finances (for starters I quit buying smokes). This whole process, in the beginning is total love/hate. Also, it can be a bit overwhelming because there are tons of folks out there who are more than happy to tell you how they think you should handle your business. But I digress. Here are

Folks I Follow so I can be a Better Badass

@parentxperiment – One of my 2 favorite finds this week. So, I am getting ready for my first walk in forever. Really looking for a great time and I plan on being gone for awhile. I really don’t want any boom-shocka-locka music or learning the power of our inner beauty and connecting with our soul glow session. So, I peruse the podcast and come across The Parent Experiment. Hosted by Lynette Carolla (wife of Adam Carolla) and Stefanie Wilder Taylor (not the wife of James Taylor), these ladies and their guests talk about being mommies. No, seriously, they talk about BEING mommies. This isn’t fluff net, suitable for the whole family, I’ll bet my preschool resume is cooler than your preschool resume kind of show. I love it, it rocks and I am a fan. They made 11 1/2 miles in two days seem like a walk to the mailbox.

@100daysrealfood – The other of my 2 favorite finds this week (hat tip to Rocky). Lisa Leake  is a North Carolina wife and mommy of two of the prettiest little girls. She is waging war (and winning) against processed food. Yeah, so there are a bunch of folks like this, I know. But I like Lisa. She has the heart of a teacher – rarely do I find her waving a billy club to beat her readers in the head. She gets the kid thing. She gets the budget thing. She gets the balance thing. She gets a whole lotta crap. And she is only a little snarky, no matter what anyone else says about her.

@couponmom – OK, so I almost didn’t post this one because I don’t think it is an actual manned twitter account. GASP!! I know. But, when I thought about its usefulness in what it is, I figured, what the hell, it’s my blog and I will post it if I want to. This twitter stream is full of updates on some of the best deals and discounts.  Drug stores, groceries, clothing – you name it – if there is a deal, it flutters through, click, bang done. I could really get into this saving money business (did I mention I am in real estate :/)

@geekend2011 – one of the coolest things to ever happen to Savannah. Our Creative Coast has outdone themselves this time. While the actual Geekend isn’t until November (October if you are going in Boston), this twitter feed will give you plenty of geek to bridge the gap. Those freaking copper magnets kept my eyeballs glued to the screen – and I can’t figure out why. If you ever need a forward, cutting edge thought, or need some inspiration for your own blow out ideas, this twitter stream is rich with opportunity.

@SavCraftBrew – The whole reason Geekend is only one of the coolest things in Savannah. The Savannah Craft Brewfest makes me want to quit my day job, develop a master line of micro brews and force the Savannah Area Convention and Visitors Bureau to let me be Coastal Brew Diva. I am really embracing this healthier, wholer life – but, you are gonna pry my beer from my cold dead hands. The smokes, you can have – you ain’t gettin’ my beer. Maybe I will save enough money on coupon mom to make the tickets to the BrewFest free…and I am pretty sure I will have worked out enough to afford a teeny weekend of calories. Pop a cold one, I’ve earned it!

@brandipearl – When this chick and I met, we didn’t know each other at all. It didn’t matter. Brandi is such an open, warm, sincere, person, making friends is easy – especially if you are in line for the bar at a kick ass ReTechSouth party.  Brandi is my kind of people. She is, well, Brandi. Oh and she is also the Brains in @MauraNeill’s zombie Apocalypse team. Which is good for Maura. Brandi will do well in the “make you laugh,” “hold down the fort,” and “the kick zombie ass” departments. I’d take her to the CraftBrew Fest.