I shined my sink

Ok, I know that is a heck of a way to attempt to reconnect with you all after my unplanned, unannounced, unexplained hiatus. One day I was blogging, conversing and interacting. The next, I was gone. I am sure I owe everyone and apology. Most assuredly an explanation. So, I will go ahead and tell you…I was abducted by aliens and the replacement they put into my body couldn’t read or write.

Seriously, I just hit a drop dead point. I didn’t see it coming and I certainly didn’t expect it to last nearly six months. I had a hard time conversing with people. I started feeling drained of energy. I was easily frustrated. Stress was at an all time high. My house was (and still is) a mess. I was eating like garbage and decided I would rather sleep than exercise.

A person wired the way that I am can only survive like that for so long. About a month ago, I hit a breaking point with my breaking point. I realized it was not my activities that drove me insane but the way I chose to view them and myself. I need to get my mind right instead of just putting on a game face.

The first thing I did was to come clean with two of my closest friends. My Pooler Posse were instrumental in helping me get over myself and pull up my big girl pants. They were neither judgemental nor passive. They allowed me to feel safe unloading my junk but never let me stay there and waddle in it.

I turned to my nutritionist/coach/mentor/friend, Deborah Crespo. Together with the support of Lisa Cree, she put me on the path to healthy living. While changing your diet and exercising doesn’t fix everything, it was the best place to start. I have already noticed a change in my mental and physical state.

I shined my sink. Say what you want about the importance of a clean house, but the state of my home goes directly to the core of my being. However, I have a husband, four children and my own business. I have had to grasp a better system in my home and cut myself some slack on the progress. I rediscovered the FlyLady. I adore that woman and her ability to instruct effectively with accountability without guilt ridden oppression.

I deleted all 275 feeds in my feed reader. I love you all and I am so glad you are here. Please don’t take this personally. But, when I started adding feeds in the beginning, I was new to the blogging scene and had no idea what I doing. I had gotten to the point where I could not keep up. As a seasoned veteran with a better handle on how this whole thing works, I am ready to start anew. I will say that I am adding the first three back toady. I look forward to getting my feet wet again with

I started posting Turn Around Tuesday on Making Life Work for You. Seems a silly thing not to do since I write them every week anyway.

And that’s it for now. I am going back to the basics. Reconnecting and relearning the art of online social media. I hope you know that i missed you – well, most of you – and I can’t wait to meet you again.


  1. Welcome back April! Missed ya!

  2. Jay – You rock!

  3. Shailesh Ghimire says:

    Welcome back – I can relate to a lot of what you are talking about here. I think there is a danger of being over loaded and becoming over engaged. I think the important thing that I’ve come to realize is that I can choose the level of engagement I want and it doesn’t matter to anyone else what that level is. So, I’ve started to pare down my feeds or at least better categorize them and also budget the time I devote to the engagement. Well I’m preaching to the choir here…. welcome back!

  4. Shailesh – I hear you. For me, the hardest part was that I didn’t expect it and I didn’t know what to do with it. The guilt was the hardest part to get past. But, I really missed it and am thrilled to be back with a great new perspective. And I am super glad to hear from you!

  5. OMG! I’ve totally been a “flybaby” for a year or so. I keep falling on and off the program, but when I’m on it SO works. I even have BG doing the Riley Challenges. 🙂

    On the note of your unplanned hiatus, we all have to “back up off it” sometimes. Regroup. Reprioritize. Recover. Glad you’re back. Now it’s time to improvise, adapt, and overcome.

  6. Nothing wrong with keep a blog nice and tidy. At least you had the courtesy to let us know what you were doing and why in advance.

  7. Hi, April;

    I just wanted to say hello and kudos to you for living – passionately and honestly – as exactly who you are.

    As someone who blogs, builds and maintains websites, etc. for a living, I can utterly identify with the sense of overwhelm you were feeling – welcome back, belatedly!

    In fact, the reason I am here is a symptom of just that – you and I are both on the ‘personal development list’ which I have on my site, and which has been quite well distributed.

    Every so often I try and go through it to see what everyone is up to, whether they are still contributing value and even if the blogs still exist. It is a big job, among so many other big jobs – like others it is part of a list of big jobs which need to be done regularly to keep things current and valuable to my readers.

    I often say I could ‘work’ 24/7 and still have waaaay too little time in the day!

    Anyway, I hope you don’t mind my saying hello, and I look forward to hearing more from you in your various venues. I wish you fabulous success, now and always.


  8. April. OMG! I can get it and I have done it. 4 kids, no husband, (A divorce that broke my heart wide open!) an invalid mother, restoring a 12 room – 200 year old home, a business and going back to school. YIKES! I hit the ground running by 6AM and never stopped until waay past 2AM… 8 days a week! The only thing that kept me sane was the kids… Holding them, playing with them… Knowing they were the only reason to keep going… Now there are grandchildren! And time for me! As you already know it is this that grows us into amazing women! I love you and I support your process. Is there any action I can do that would further support you?

  9. I am near the end of a 10 year process of writing “True Confessions of a Reluctant Giraffe” I am interested in your story. Is there a possibility of including yours in this book of people like us who go through ‘Hell in a Hand-basket’ and come out the other side with an extraordinary life?

    Nanci Hartland, CEO, Founder, Volunteer
    Lifetracks Global Foundation, Inc. http://www.lifetracks.org
    Making a Difference in Africa since 1994.
    We fund entrepreneurs. We do not ‘fight’ poverty.

  10. TY a ton for posting this, it was very handy and helped tons

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