Archives for April 2008

Remember this is a family friendly blog

Urgggggg. I must remember this a family friendly blog. My children read this. So, no swearing about the C-R-A-P that is American Idol. I am with Kirsten, surprised…incredibly surprised.

So, Savannah Red was right on about the Andrew Lloyd Webber bit. Love him, but for Idol…ummm, no. He thought they would follow up with Tiny Tim. Ha! They did one better. They followed up with Neil “locked in the disco” Diamond. Don’t get me wrong, “You Don’t Bring Me Flowers” (which is destined to be tonight’s group song) is a classic. But, you have 20-somethings and under rallying for the next American pop star crown and you have them sing show tunes and Neil Diamond? Really? Serious?

So, Jay, rant away. I know neither one of us thought Carly was the next American Idol. But Jason Castro is still there and Carly is gone? After he sounded like G-A-R-B-A-G-E and she owned “Jesus Christ Superstar.” *Side Note – Have I ever mentioned how much I LOVE Ted Neely?

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Eric, you are a smart fella. But, I think you need to check in with Jay about the power of the pink cell phone. There is no way David Cook and Brooke are together in the finale. Even if that’s the way it should be, that’s not the way it is gonna be (I reference the fact that Michael Johns has already been voted off).


Creech is at -4. One for not understanding that the Idol blog is over at the finale. Another for not knowing that I only watch CBS soap operas and cling to “Survivor” (how about those girls voting off men, with the idol, two weeks in a row!). And two more for thinking that I wring my hands over anything that doesn’t share my DNA or has a similar relationship.

Diana and Coco didn’t make it – they both are hanging tight at 2 points.

Eric gets +3 for sticking to his priorities and making a great effort to jump back in the game…but -1 for his final pick (I’ll call him the default winner if his final two are right). So, he ends up at 3.

Kirsten gets +1 for using the word “coolio.” She is also at 3.

Jay  gets +2 because I know he bit his tongue off – and I am still feeling admiration for the Iz respect. His total is 7.

Savannah Red  takes the lead with a +3 comment. Take your pick as to which part of the tirade you like best. My top three were the shout out to Englebert Humperdinck, Idol ala Ice Capades and knowing enough about me that he could abbreviate PBR and I would know just what he was talking about (free and cold is the best kind!) He leads with 8.

Now, let’s watch the results show and tell Brooke White goodbye…

Turn Around Tuesday

“We must get beyond textbooks, go out into the bypaths and untrodden depths of the wilderness and travel and explore and tell the world the glories of our journey.” – John Hope Franklin, Professor

I almost saved this quote for another day. Seems like I should have a bigger trip to tell you about if I am going to use such a bold quote. Seems like it should at least require an airplane ticket. But, I am certain that is not what he meant.

I looked at the words of Professor Franklin for a long time. You should too. Chew on them for a bit and see what you taste. Something is telling me there will be different things for each person. I know what I see and I can pretty much bet that it isn’t the same as most. Neither is yours. Go ahead – look again.

I think the reason each of us will see a different message is due to the dynamic nature of the underlying call to action – have a free, complete thought, get out of your comfort zone and make somebody’s life better. That middle part is my favorite – go out into the bypaths and untrodden depths of the wilderness and travel and explore. As each of us walk on our own journey, there is always a nice footpath of typical. On either side you have paths not often taken. The trip off the beaten path can lead to those places you have always wanted to be, but never thought you would go.

Today I want to encourage you to challenge your own boundaries. Consider the things you don’t consider because they don’t fit into one of your “to-do” categories. Think on that idea you pushed back because it was “too big.” Recall that person you know needed a word of encouragement and give them a call. It’s not weird – it is human.

It’s Toastmasters Ya’ll

It is official. The Richmond Hill chapter of Toastmasters International has chartered. We are no longer a group attempting to get our legs about us. We are a full fledged organization. And it happened with exceptional timing.

Georgia Governor Sonny Perdue declared the week of April 27 to May 3 Toastmaster Week in throughout the state. He must have known we were chartering and wanted to do something real nice to welcome us in.

I talk up Toastmasters a lot. Why? Being able to talk to 5 people or 5000 is an important skill. Unfortunately, it is often overlooked, mishandled or avoided. Toastmasters provides a great environment to hone that ability. There is lots of instruction, support and practice.

We would love to have you join us. We meet every Monday morning, 8:30am at Magnolia Manor. The coffee is hot and the company is phenomenal.

American Idol Top 6 Minus 1

So, I am watching the vote off show before I even have the chance to watch my TiVoed episode from last night. Crap! Well, at any rate, I can tell you that missing Idol was due to a big ole project I promise to reveal very soon. Oooo – mysterious…

But – I have gone through the points…drum roll please

Eric is still hanging out at 1…I am guessing…school work is getting in the way of Idol. Geesh – where are our priorities?

Diana starts off with 2 points. She gushes about Idol AND has more kids than me. That has to count for a point.

Kirsten also has 2 points. Not only did she totally agree with me (and on my blog that gets a point), but just seeing her name makes me smile 🙂

Coco is hanging out with the 2 pointers due to the phenom Hamlet quote she left for me.

Savannah Red gained four points with a total of 5. He is an absolute riot! One of my favorite things about this blogging Idol is his comments. Not to mention he is almost always dead on.

And Jay leads the way up five to a total of 6. Three came from his begging tirade. But, he did have great picks and pegged the Dolly Parton group song. Then there was the bonus two points for giving Iz the respect he deserves.

While you guys watch the the results show, I am gonna watch last night’s performances. So don’t tell me…

Turn Around Tuesday

“One of the things that has helped me as much as any other, is not how long I am going to live, but how much I can do while living. ” – George Washington Carver (1864 – 1943)

NEWS ALERT – Life is finite. Even if time is infinite, our opportunity to occupy it in this life is not. Some of us are shocked by this revelation. Others of us know it all too well. All of us should consider the idea far more often.

Contrary to what logic would suggest, our positive impact on our surroundings is not directly proportional to the amount of time we were afforded to spend in it. There are many loved ones taken too soon, some before adulthood, whose brief encounter into our lives has left a fingerprint on our heart that is unquestionably life altering. Others, full of years, could not say the same.

The interesting thing is people will often get busy because of the shortness of the day, throw up their hands up at the lack of time or prioritize the trash out of a daily list of “to dos.” Few people fling their arms around the life that is theirs and commit to effecting change in the time they are allotted without reservation or guilt.

Today I want to encourage you to fling your arms around the life that is yours. Are you more/less busy, capable, resource ready – whatever – than somebody else? Who cares? You are uniquely equipped to do that thing which you were created to do. And it is in that thing where you effect the change you always wanted to see. Embracing the time that is now is far more effective than chasing after the time not promised or harboring guilt of time lost. The best way to honor the past and the future is with an exceptional now.

Special Message from Deborah Crespo

With well over a million cases of cancer diagnosed each year, chances are that you know someone personally affected by this disease.

For my husband, Alberto, this chance became a reality 10 years ago when he met my father. Their relationship grew from “The Talk” on the porch with my husband as the new son-in-law, and continued with discussions about the similar, “unique” personalities of their wives.

In 2002, my father’s battle with cancer ended. My husband carries on the fight each year in the American Cancer Society Relay For Life®. This event is about celebration, remembrance and hope, as well as, to raise money to help fight cancer.

He participated in the Relay For Life® this past Friday, however; you can still make a donation. The hope I have in supporting this effort is that another wonderful husband, somewhere, will not have to walk in honor of his father-in-law’s memory, but instead continue to have the privilege to walk with him side by side.

To make a donation in support of Alberto Crespo in the Relay for Life® visit the website: Educate yourself and find resources about cancer at the American Cancer Society’s website.

Fake it ’til You Make It

I had the incredible opportunity to hear Sandra Yancy, founder of eWomen Network, talk at one of our recent events. I can’t even begin to tell you how inspiring, motivating, uplifting, phenomenal (keep inserting great adjectives here) the whole thing was. She was funny, easy to listen to, unassuming and, most importantly, real.

She spoke of The Little Engine that Could. I’ll do a full post on that as soon as my copy gets here. That was an eye opener in itself.

She spoke of being almost broke. She talked about the perseverance it took to make it through.

She talked about the need for other people and the importance of relationships.

She is also of the opinion that “fake it ’til you make it” is utter crap.

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Huh? Isn’t this the mantra that all self confident, newly emerging folks live by? Isn’t this the mind set that is required to exude confidence and be that person in the room that people want to know and be known by? How can this be wrong?

We have all heard it…fake it ’til you make it. You have the world by the tail and if you don’t the only person that needs to know that is you. Right?

No – how on earth are you going to get the support, mentorship and guidance you need if no one knows that you are going through hard times? You have to let people know when things are wrong so you can get the help you need to get it back on track. Right?

No – this, as in most things, has, in my opinion, a truth that lies somewhere in the middle. That “middle truth” happens to hand in hand with another truth I believe in – everyone needs a safe place to bleed.

It is true that some people

  • want to know, associate with and do business with successful people.
  • want to help and assist those who are falling on tough times.
  • will eat the weak.
  • nourish the poor.

Therefore, seems to me that application of this “fake it ’til you make it” idea is situational.

There are times when total confidence, even in the face of total defeat, is a necessity.

There are times when one must unload the weight, ask for help carrying it and collaborate for way to make it lighter.

The trick is differentiating between the occasions.


  • Do you fall on one of the two sides or in the middle?
  • How do you know when either approach is appropriate?
  • Do you think the strategy changes depending on the size of the market or the makeup of the business community (i.e. working in New York City versus Small Town USA)

American Idol Top 7

Boo Hiss…I feel like boycotting a Michael Johnsless Idol. Especially if the “pink cell phone” crowd is still there in numbers. Ugh…but, there is still David Cook and Brooke…

David A. – yawn…have I mentioned how perplexed I am that I dislike a kid that sings so well? I do…I really do. Would turn the radio dial every single time…I am considering watching it on TiVo so I can fast forward it.

Carly – mmmm….okay. Take her or leave her.

Syesha -my female David A. The girl can sing, there is no doubt about that. But, she is just so…typical.

Brooke – I love it when she does that piano thing. I love listening to her and I think there is character and life in her imperfection. Those falters are where her passion lies and I would rather hear that than a pitch perfect performance.

Kristie -Is she still here? Really?

David – Real deal talent. No doubt. He is my favorite (darn Michael Johns). Great signing voice, whatever…there is something about raw talent that just does it for me…I think that’s the thing that Syesha is missing…

Jason – I am still irritated he tried to pull off Braddah Iz’s version of Over the Rainbow. The Hawaiian in me almost threw something at the TV. It is the Hawaiian equivalent of somebody trying to do Whitney. I understand not everyone is familiar with THE version. I will share with you here.

BTW – I love you, Pops…


American Idol Top 8 – The Explanation

First, my sincerest apologies for missing you all last week. Last Tuesday, a dear friend of mine, Gregory Cross, died suddenly of a massive heart attack. He was only 47 years old. Wrap your minds around that one.

While you all are very supportive and some of my great friends, I just didn’t feel like blogging. I didn’t really feel like doing anything. But, as it was, I had tons I had to do so I didn’t do anything that wasn’t imperative. I knew you guys would understand.

His memorial was last night. While I still don’t want to do a whole lot, I know Greg and I know his life – it was fun and he brought fun to all those around him. He would still want to bring the fun.

And I think hanging out with you guys is fun…

So, in loving memory of my wonderful friend Greg, this is your American Idol.

Turn Around Tuesday

This Turn Around Tuesday is dedicated in loving memory to Gregory Cross. He is my friend in life and the thereafter.

“Although the world is full of suffering, it is full also of the overcoming of it.”

– Helen Keller (1880-1968)

They say things happen in threes. They also say they are “waiting for the other shoe to drop.” That statement suggests that things happen in pairs. I am betting most of us have had times where things happen in bushels, tons, and in quantities measurable only by stars in the galaxy numbers. Two’s and three’s would be cake. We like cake.

Unfortunately, we don’t get to schedule strife, chaos, unforeseen or surprise. Those guys have already hacked into your datebook and can pencil themselves in whenever they want to. Sometimes they just effect your world at large. Other times it is just business. Occasionally, they get real personal. It gets to be a true test of character when they orchestrate the epic trifecta that encompasses all three and seems to last forever.

Today I want to encourage you to laugh, cry, sing, dance, run, sleep, shout. Do any of these expressives regardless of whether those around you feel it is “appropriate.” There is no doubt that sometimes it just feels like “too much.” But, as long as we are still breathing, there is still hope. I challenge you to take full advantage of that hope, turn your day around and take somebody with you. The best thing that can come out of a Tuesday is a better Wednesday.

6000 Women Hand Up

A Working Woman in Need (AWWIN) will be hosting the first Capital Campaign Kickoff for “The 6000 Woman Hand up Challenge” on next Friday, April 18 at the Coastal Georgia Center in room 115 at 6:00PM.

The kickoff is free and open to the public – men and women alike. There will be light refreshments and maybe a few surprises. Media partner, Skirt Magazine, is getting the word out and donor lists are getting ready to appear on the AWWIN website.

AWWIN is also gearing up for their Third Annual Father’s Day Golf Tournament presented by Skirt Magazine on June 13th. The tournament, along with “Savannah’s Top Ten Working Women of The Year” Awards Gala on September 12, is part of this year’s “Hand Up” Challenge.”

Turn Around Tuesday

“The vicissitudes of life require that you set your goals as high as possible. Never ever give up. And for pete’s sake, if you are not happy with your life, do something positive (POSITIVE) and not destructive, to change your expectancies.” – Dr. Judy Halliday

April’s Word of the Day

Vicissitude a favorable or unfavorable event or situation that occurs by chance…a fluctuation of state or condition…usually beyond one’s control.

Yes, Dr. Judy, I had to look that one up. And while many people before you have said, “set high goals,” the insertion of the word “vicissitude” takes it to a whole new level.

Many of us have our mind wrapped around the need to create goals and dreams that cause us to aim higher than ourselves. Most of us are comfortable having one or two lofty goals. But few of us are prepared to hold on to those ideas when it is impacted by an unfavorable event outside of our control.

Far too many of us allow ourselves to be shaped and defined by our circumstances. Often times, we feel unable to maintain any consistency while engrossed in situations we cannot control. Instead of being the person we want to be, we settle for being the person that life creates for us.

Today I want to encourage you to be the person you want to be regardless of circumstance. Failure is imminent when we allow ourselves to be beholden to circumstances we don’t control. it is quite another thing indeed when we harness the power to define our own reality.

Remember the Rainbows

I don’t mind telling you that bringing attention to the Remember the Rainbows foundation is not my favorite thing to do. I can’t even begin to imagine what it is like to lose a child.

But whether or not we like to talk about it is not the issue. The fact is that parents have lost their greatest gifts to childhood cancer. I am overwhelmingly grateful to those who stand in the gap and provide support and outreach to these families.

You can find out more information about visiting their website. You can provide your support by participating in their annual fund drive. Special thanks goes to Jennie Brewster for donating her time and efforts to such a special cause. May our families never need them and thank them so much for being there if we ever did.

*Today’s quote was found at Dr. Judy Halliday

American Idol Top 9

Woo Hoo! How about I am a huge Dolly Parton fan. And it is Dolly Parton night on your American Idol.

Brooke White – One of my favorite Idols doing one of my favorite Dolly songs. I would buy her album today. Who cares what the judges say?

David Cook – Wow! Michael Johns better bring it tonight. He is about to get replaced as my number one pick. He is an absolute genius. Simon says it wasn’t as good as last week. Well, duh! Last week was utterly masterful. Few will ever be as good as David’s last week, much less repeat it.

Ramiele Malubay – Yawn…what else is there to say…next!

Jason Castro – Paula needs a hearing aid. He is done…have a nice day.

Carly Smithson – Again, great vocals – amazing even…but, I am with Jay…there is just something about her. Just not interested…Simon called out her apparel – about time.

David Archuleta – It is amazing how somebody with such a great voice can sound little better to me than nails on a chalkboard. Harsh? Maybe. But I am so tired of listening to anything he has to sing.

Kristie Lee Cook – She has lucked out two weeks in a row with the song selection. And her dress is great. But she definitely does not get my vote. She said she would rather impress Dolly Parton than her momma. What!? I mean, sure it’s Dolly – but never before Momma.

Syesha Mercado – “I Will Always Love You” Ha! As if. Are you kidding She can’t honestly think she can even begin to tackle that song. Can’t even believe she tried this…you already know what they are going to say. She should get voted off just for being stupid.

Michael Johns – Well, it’s a love song…very cool. He gets to stay my favorite for another week. Incredible…best of the evening.

My vote – Ramiele…or really any of them who performed in the middle

Points line up – it is a tie all the way around