I am a bit frustrated so we are going to continue and hope this doesn’t become a rant…but I am thinking that once I make that disclaimer, I am already setting myself up for one…but on I go anyway.
Let your vote be counted – if you are going to vote like me
Let your voice be heard – if you are saying the same thing I am saying
Show up and show them strength in numbers – if you presence adds to my team
Otherwise, sit down, be quiet and stay home or else it is personal.
I hear lots of conversations that verbally express the first thoughts, then escalate to the second ones in the face of opposition.
It seems like lots of folks want you to stand up and say what you think, unless you disagree with them. Then it is a personal death match instead of productive problem solving. Politics is the worse. Community activity is almost as bad. The workplace has the same characteristics.
Don’t get me wrong – I can be a guilty as the next person. If you tell me you are voting for…well, we won’t go there because that is not the subject and as soon as I say it, it will be. But let’s just say you are voting for person “A” and you support topic “B” and I am adamantly opposed to both. I don’t mind if you are uninvolved in the process. In fact, I would just assume you let me handle it. I am guessing you would probably say the same thing about me.
But, we both know the process is not supposed to work that way. Somewhere in the grand scheme of things, disagreement got personal and compromise was thrown to the dogs. Winning became the point – right be damned. Who cares what the other folks say, it will be my way. Anything less is defeat and I will not submit. How does that work? How is that mentality useful?
It is becoming harder and harder to figure out who is the majority. Harder still to figure out if the majority is right. Moreover, is the majority informed enough to know one way or the other? Understand that, in the US, we live in a republic more than a democracy. We vote for the people who vote in our stead. And our guy doesn’t always win – so, we have people voting for us that we didn’t vote for…but, I digress…
I guess the real question is when did we lose the art of honest compromise for the overall good and just?
More importantly, how do we get it back?