O – Observant Opinionated

I loved participating in theater in high school. I was fairly good at it too.

In my personal and professional life, I do well with people. I seem to “get” them. I find it easy to get past what they are saying and down to what they are thinking.

In my adult life, I have gotten very good at understanding situations. It may be why I love politics, the news and reality shows. I am able to cut through the smoke and mirrors and get a little deeper past the surface – usually.

While I am not close minded, I do have strong beliefs. I enjoy hearing new points of view. However, if it is a debate you want, if I think I am right, and there is coffee involved – let the fun begin. I can get heated, convincing and convinced.

But coffee is the important part. Face to face, that is. It is difficult trying to get into those kinds of conversations any other way. There has to be a level of trust involved. There has to be some human interaction – a chance to correct misunderstandings. The ability to understand each other that is hard to do in any other way than in person.

Understanding Both is Important

Being an observant individual lends itself to understanding people on a level they may not be ready to be understood at. Being an opinionated person has to be bridled in order to be respectful to feelings.

Being an opinionated individual can cloud observations. If I am not careful to remember that we are all fallible, I can miss the truth due to my own preconceptions created by what I think I saw.

Comments

  1. There’s nothing wrong with having an opinion. It’s when you have an opinion and stick to it that you start to become narrow-minded in your interactions with others; and this is wrong!

    And speaking of coffee, to quote John Moe from Starbuck’s The Way I See It # 280…
    “You can learn a lot more from listening than you can from talking.

    Find someone with whom you don’t agree in the slightest and ask them to explain themselves at length. Then take a seat, shut your mouth, and don’t argue back. It’s physically impossible to listen with your mouth open.”

  2. You are spot on in your assessment of listening! It is one of the most important functions of observation.

    I love talking to people that differ in views – usually. I think your whole idea is right on and people would benefit from following it.

  3. Wade Young says:

    If you can get past what people are saying and down to what they are thinking, you probably have good intuition. Studies have shown that CEOs who rely on intuition make more money than those who don’t. I often wonder if intuition is a skill that can be worked like a muscle, something deep inside the mind that scientists have yet to fully understand. I also wonder if intuition can be facilitated in children. For my part, I plan to foster intuition in my young son. After all, we all need to get past what people are saying and down to what they are really thinking.

  4. I am blessed with intuition – I think it is genetic…my dad is amazing with his intuition.

    I don’t know if intuition is a gift or a learned trait…but, I do know that observation is a practiced habit and it is a great intuition booster.

    And I do agree – intuition has to be a leg up on the competition.

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