I Do Whatever I Want To

I am putting it out there. My dreams are mine, I am feeling a little excitable, and life is decorated with pretty bows just for me. I will share them with you – but, these are mine.

Let me slow down a bit…but try to move with me, I have a lot going on in my head.

I think Kirsten Harrell is the cat’s meow. I have just added Corinne Edwards to that list also. Today they are my heroes of inspiration. It is a wonderful thing to know you are not alone.

Let me figure out how to explain all the tangled strands that have begun to create a beautiful web…

I was in the Navy for 11 years. Of that time, I spent 3 doing something I loved. I had the unique opportunity to become a Master Training Specialist and an Instructor. The rest of the time was spent being places I did not necessarily want to be and doing things I really did care to do.

Note – not complaining…I LOVED the military. I volunteered for it, I knew how it worked, and it was a great experience for me.

After a deployment to the Middle East did not sit well with my children, it was time to leave that calling for someone else. In the short time that followed, I had two more children, reactivated my real estate license, bought some real clothes, and discovered blogging.

Real estate is wonderful because you are your own boss. Such is the life of a client based independent contractor. I met wonderful people and learned what seems like small things

  • I like people even more than I realized
  • The real estate market is more cyclic than I knew
  • Blogging is addictive and should be approached with extreme caution
  • ipopins are infectious
  • Bubble wands make me giggle
  • Coaching people is a full contact sport
  • Writing will keep me sane while driving me crazy
  • and…

I am not defined by what I do because
I can do whatever I want

I am not settling. I can go big. Dreaming is a good thing – especially when done with a magic bubble wand.

But doubts happen. You start to question yourself and hope you don’t look and sound like a complete idiot. You start to think, “Maybe they are right. Maybe I am too much, do too much, want too much.”

What do they know?

I have folks like Kirsten who sends me wonderful encouragements that help get my mind right when the real estate market gets…different. Maybe should hedge myself against those market trends – I do have four kids to feed. Then Lani tells me that I am a big old weirdo and that if anybody can do it – I can.

At some point, Priscilla Palmer creates a list, Valeria Maltoni creates a list, I think it’s Liz that puts me on both, the blogs blow up, and I am getting phone calls to do development training. But, this is the business of one of my dear friends of whom I do not wish to encroach upon. No problem…she says I can work with her.

In the meantime, editor of the local paper says, “Nice blog. Wanna write a column?” Ummm…lemme think…DUH! Well, column turns into a business page and we debut a week from Wednesday.

Last night at a roll out party for Kathy Ackerman’s new Pilate’s/Yoga Fusion DVD, somebody asked me what I did…and I answered, “Whatever I want to.”

I am a real estate agent, a blogger, a coach, a columnist. Some call that multiple streams of income and it is. But these are things I am great at, a, passionate about, and make me thrilled to the toes to do.  So, I call it Making Life Work for Me.

I know there are some folks out there doing it their own way. Heck, I think I am going to print out Corinne’s as a road map. I am thinking of a few people in particular…Phil, Rosa, Chris, Anne, Tim come to mind immediately. And you too? Tell me about your great life…doing it the way YOU want to.

How are you defining what you do and who you are?


  1. Rosa Say | Managing with Aloha says:

    How fabulous April, you are an inspiration. This is spirit spilling at its best – written within lokomaika’i, the generosity of good heart. Continue to do whatever you want, for that wanting is coming from good intention, and that is what makes the difference.

  2. Hi April,
    Wow! I am blown away by your compliments! I am also thrilled to read all the wonderful things you are doing. Congrats on the newspaper gig! I am certain that will be great. Your writing is entertaining and inspirational. Keep going big, my bloggy friend… the sky is the limit!

  3. So you’re a Realeblogoachmnist. I think you just proved that Lani’s right. One of a kind. You go, April! 🙂

  4. Great post April. Thanks for participating in my Project and HUGE appreciation for sharing your dream in such a beautiful manner.

    You are a gem.


  5. Why the crap didn’t I know about the column? I’m slacking on emails I suppose….. April, I don’t think most people are capable of handling what you handle- just having FOUR kids seems like too much for me, but you seem to handle everything so gracefully because you are talented, inspired and TOUGH (the three keys).

    Remember that He never gives you more than you can carry. 🙂

  6. Congrats on the newspaper gig! Does that mean you’re going to start getting up at 2 am now to get everything done – or just give up sleeping altogether?!? 🙂 Thanks for the link!!!

  7. Congratulations on such fantastic accomplishments. Thank you for sharing them with us. You are an inspiration to many!!!

  8. Kirsten – you deserve every bit of it…BTW…my first grader thinks “I am happy. Happy, happy, happy,” is the best way to start the day 🙂

  9. Chris

    Just had lunch with Gorgeous…we all love my title…I am not even going to tell you how long I spent in the coffee shop trying to decide how I wanted to pronounce it.

    You sure do have a nice way of saying you think I am crazy 😛

  10. Adebola,

    Thanks so much for inviting me to participate! You have been a welcome addition to my bloggy friend circle!

  11. Lani,

    It just happened Wednesday. I promise you are still my BBF. Especially after you made sure to add the disclaimer that you weren’t talking about me 🙂

  12. Mahalo Auntie,

    You have always been such a great inspiration to me. Know that when I go big, there is usually a “Rosaism” going through my head.

    ‘Imi ola – to seek life in its highest form. Tap into the power and freedom you have to design and create your destiny in the way you want it to turn out.

  13. Anne – HA! Nope. It means I can finally sit back and say I have designed all the colors of my hat and I can just set about wearing it for a while and give the ones that don’t suit me to charity 🙂

  14. Priscilla – Thank you. Your good intentions were such a great benefit to us all. I hope you realize how powerful that was. I for one am exceedingly appreciative.

  15. Hey Realeblogoachmnist,
    That is so cute about your first grader and the I am happy ipopin! I love that one too. The kids who did the voices for the kids ipopins are coming to visit this weekend. I will share this feedback with them. They will be thrilled!

    Enjoy your weekend!

    • Kirsten – Ha! I LOVE that. Wonder if I should get business cards…better learn how to spell it first 🙂

      Hope your weekend with the kids went well.


  16. Dear April –

    Thanks for coming over to visit and especially for the nice compliment on my multiple streams article.

    You are welcome to print it.

    It is nice to know that I am not alone in realizing that you can’t always depend on one source. Besides, it gets boring. More fun to keep reinventing yourself.

    So glad to meet a new friend. You are a great writer!



  17. April:

    I have to agree with Corrine – you are a GREAT writer! I enjoy reading your posts and am especially inspired to learn how wonderful opportunities have come your way almost easily and effortlessly – as it should – that’s how the law of attraction works. One thing leads to another and if you’re on purpose with your life, then things will flow or be attracted to you with natural ease.

    I love it!
    Keep it up.

    • Stephen – Thanks! I am a fan of yours to thanks to finding you over at Make it Great. And I am looking forward to the effortlessly and easily – resonating is still an infant concept to me and takes some serious bulldog mind power and tons of sweaty equity 🙂 But it is an awesome ride and I wouldn’t change one minute. Especially when I am meeting people like you!

  18. April,

    I have to add my own voice that you’re a great writer. This post is inspiring and educative. You possess that easy and effortless talent that makes all things possible easily and without much effort.

    You must have polished your Positive Self Talk.


    • Abu – Well there’s a new post for me 🙂 I have to stop this rumor that I have polished the self talk. I’ll be honest – positive self talk is the hardest thing I do everyday – but I do it everyday and it is getting easier.And your comment is going to make it even easier to do today. Thanks so much.

  19. Corinne – When I read that article I felt so at home and excited. Talk about timing! I am not yet at the point where I want to reinvent myself – I am just loving having a bunch of ways to express who I am!Thanks so much for the wonderful encouragement and sharing a message I really needed to hear.

  20. Really good and really interesting post. I expect (and other readers maybe :)) new useful posts from you!
    Good luck and successes in blogging!

  21. Heavy – Thanks! Things have been a bit slow around here for a minute, but I am fixing to change that. Picking up the pace at Christmas time – ha! That’s just the kind of crazy girls I am 🙂

    Thanks for coming by!


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