…but when you provide a real time forum for clients to anonymously learn about you, you become trustworthy, approachable and they will already know you and have given you a virtual handshake before you even know their name.
That got me thinking…what about the Handshake?
Long story short…my dad has three daughters and zero sons. So, I have built chicken coops, dug drainage fields, changed fuel pumps and brake lines, thrown a football…and learned the art of the handshake.
Firm but not hard, direct but not confrontational, eye to eye but not challenging. Does that make sense?
When I met my husband, it was in a work environment. He would later tell me that my handshake was memorable.
These are real life handshakes. You know whose hand you are shaking and what situation you are both currently in. There is tone of voice, body language, and facial expressions. Lots of information gets passed during this process.
But what are the characteristics of a virtual handshake? I will tell you some things I have noticed.
- Great Bloggers give great virtual handshakes. They are warm and inviting without being weird and overbearing.
- Virtual handshakes take longer than real ones. The response time is different and the non verbal communication is unavailable. Therefore it takes more time to glean the same information.
- The anatomy of a virtual handshake is basically the same as a real one – the offer, the acceptance, the release, and the continued conversation.
- Commenting a few times on another blog and not getting any acknowledgement that you joined the conversation feels the same as when you go to accept a handshake and they do the pull back, “ha ha got you” trick.
But, the anonymity of it all makes the virtual handshake so much different. The vehicle of the keyboard that allows us to reach so many becomes the obstacle of knowing exactly who you are traveling to. This is where I draw a blank and look for you to fill it.
- How do you see the virtual handshake – or even the real one for that matter?
- Do you get impressions from the virtual handshake – how are they different or the same than the real one?
- How do you overcome the obstacle of the anonymous? Do you even think about it?
- What goes through your mind when you think “virtual handshake”?