Archives for August 2007

“I am here to help people who are sick and tired of being sick and tired.”

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So says Derek Frazier, cPT, owner, and instructor of You Need Fitness. And all evidence says he means it.

The Mayor was on hand yesterday to support Derek and his wife Angela during the Grand Opening. Mr. Davis had encouraging words for the Fraziers and all of Richmond Hill small business owners and their patrons. He praised those who went out and opened their own business and commented on the wonderful growth happening in our city.

He took a moment to recognize the accomplishment the Chamber of Commerce has achieve with the entrepreneurial friendly designation.

you-need-fit2.jpgBut, the Fraziers were the stars of the show.

Derek is serious about fitness. Kettle bells, bootcamp, a downloadable ebook – he is covering all the bases.

Sore after workout? Angela is a certified massage therapist.

Not sure if this is for you? Derek seems to have though of that too. He has incorporated a wealth of information on his website – both for the gym and his bootcamp program.

Derek also continues to inform and inspire through his newsletter. You can go take a peek here.

Got a minute? Stop by and say hello. You Need Fitness is located at 2558 Highway 17 South – just across the street from the Chamber Office. All of their contact information is listed here.

*Special Thanks to Kittie Franklin, Executive Director of the Richmond Hill/Bryan County Chamber of Commerce, for keeping Blogging Richmond Hill up to date about local Activities.

“I am here to help people who are sick and tired of being sick and tired.”

you-need-fit.jpg

So says Derek Frazier, cPT, owner, and instructor of You Need Fitness. And all evidence says he means it.

The Mayor was on hand yesterday to support Derek and his wife Angela during the Grand Opening. Mr. Davis had encouraging words for the Fraziers and all of Richmond Hill small business owners and their patrons. He praised those who went out and opened their own business and commented on the wonderful growth happening in our city.

He took a moment to recognize the accomplishment the Chamber of Commerce has achieve with the entrepreneurial friendly designation.

you-need-fit2.jpgBut, the Fraziers were the stars of the show.

Derek is serious about fitness. Kettle bells, bootcamp, a downloadable ebook – he is covering all the bases.

Sore after workout? Angela is a certified massage therapist.

Not sure if this is for you? Derek seems to have though of that too. He has incorporated a wealth of information on his website – both for the gym and his bootcamp program.

Derek also continues to inform and inspire through his newsletter. You can go take a peek here.

Got a minute? Stop by and say hello. You Need Fitness is located at 2558 Highway 17 South – just across the street from the Chamber Office. All of their contact information is listed here.

*Special Thanks to Kittie Franklin, Executive Director of the Richmond Hill/Bryan County Chamber of Commerce, for keeping Blogging Richmond Hill up to date about local Activities.

The Chaos of Little Girls

I feel for my daughters.  I am sure these kinds of things morph in little boys, but, as I have none, I am going to stick to what I know.

Growing up is such a hard thing to do.  Even in the early stages.  I can’t imagine (and am so glad I can’t remember) the frustration in learning how to walk or talk or make those pudgy little hands do what you want them to do.

Then there is going to school the first time.  The teachers, the rules, the other kids.  What a shock that must be.  If you can’t remember the uncomfortable nature of that time, think back to that room full of people you walked into where you knew no one, were unfamiliar with the “way things are done,” and unsure about how you would be received.

Once you have the routine of going to school, summer comes and you have to do it all over again with new people.  Then again and again.

After you have mastered the “first day of school” routine, hormones begin to brew.  Most grown people I know have a hard time dealing with the stresses of everyday life and the drama that comes with it.  How much more difficult must it be for a kid?  They don’t even understand what is going on within themselves, much less grasp the fact that it is also happening in their friends.

In walks little girl conflict.  Friends today…wait, not friends…but we are…but you made me so mad…but you just don’t listen…but I already told you…but she said…no I didn’t she said…but I heard you say…and you know what you did…not friends…wait we are friends. 

I remember little girl chaos.  Wouldn’t go back there for a winning lotto ticket – not even the big one.  It was tough.  The feelings getting all grown up while the tools to cope were still so under developed.  Things that were fun aren’t so much anymore. Learning who you are, where you fit and where you’re going becomes a challenge.  Getting big can be just so…painful. 

Believe me, I understand the process is necessary.  It is a road we all must travel.  But it is a road I know and when I think of my babies having to endure those things – it breaks my heart.

I am not a mommy who wishes to shelter her children.  But I don’t want them to hurt either.  When it happens, it is hard to watch.  They look to you to fix it, give them the words, and make it go away.  They don’t understand it’s not that easy.

There is little one can do to make easy this rite of passage.  But I will fight like a dog to do what I can – these are my babies after all.  I will remember to remember.  It wasn’t easy.  Small things didn’t feel so small.  Just listening was a good fix – trying to understand was better.  These are the things I will offer – with all the best intentions.

Feedback Friday (or April’s SOS)

So, I am not really in danger (but, I can pretend to be if that’s motivating for you.)  No sinking ships or crucial moments of peril.  But I do have questions – important ones even – and I need your help.  Ok, maybe not “important” the way geo-politics, national economy, and the season opener of Survivor are important.  But “April” important. 

  1. I have my first speaking engagement.  I am very excited and prepared (Phil, I am lifting my lid!)  I have been asked by Mary Morris, an Executive Area Manager for Arbonne, to conduct training for her group.  She really liked Flip Flippen’s The Flip Side and wanted me to talk about the critical constraints.  Flip’s organization was very gracious and gave me permission to use the their materials.  The book deals with identifying and resolving those things that trip you up. 

    Question – How do you feel about discussing overcoming negatives? When talking about overcoming negatives, what about the environment, approach, or training make you feel more comfortable?

  2. I have changed the layouts of all three websites – the main homepage, Making Life Work for You, and Beautiful Chaos.  The intent was to provide continuity to the three venues while still maintaining the uniqueness I feel each of them possess.

    Question – What do you think?

  3. I don’t think there are enough visuals on the site.  I love going to blogs that have great supporting graphics and pictures for their posts.

    Question – Where is you favorite source for finding great pictures or artwork? How do you ensure that you are respecting personal property and copyright?

And I guess that about covers the pressing things on my mind right this second.  But if you have been around here at all, you already know there is bound to be more coming up!

Big thanks in advance for all your help.  And do me another favor (man, she’s asking for a lot today!)  If you have resources that better help answer my questions, please feel free to link them up in the comments.  I know some people feel strange about linky loving themselves or others in the comment section – but as appreciated guests, you are more like family and I hope you feel at home!

Lani Is A Crazy Person

Yep, that’s me- a crazy person.  I wrote this spring about ways to cure office boredom (#15 is my favorite), and I thought I’d share with you 10 MORE ways I’ve decided to torment my coworkers (keep in mind, my husband is the “boss” so it’s especially titilliating to me)!

1. Find the lone Mac user in the office and when the user is away, open word processor, type in the words to any Rick James song (I suggest “Super Freak”) and set it to “speech” and walk away.

2. Respond to all requests with “don’t think so,” even if it isn’t fitting.  Too chicken?  Then answer any question with quotes from Office Space (might I suggest “PC load letter?” or “all that stuff I said about being a crack head? It just helps me sell magazines”), even if it doesn’t make sense.

3. Pick your favorite coworker and after they leave every day, take every staple but one out of their stapler.  After a week, insanity sets in when they have to refill their stapler after one use over and over and over and over and over again…

4.  Get a pair of underwear (uh, clean ones, weirdo) and with a Sharpie, write a coworker’s initials on the tag.  Leave them inconspicuously placed in the boss’ office and wait…

5. Remember the clap on?  Install the “clap on” in someone’s office after they leave for the day on a Thursday.  Make sure that everyone gets a colorful note on their desk before they get to work noting that for the sake of “Friday office fun,” everyone has to clap anytime the word “yes” is uttered.  Watch the lights (or printer) flicker as irritation rises… just try not to laugh and give yourself away.

I’ll leave it to April to make your life better through positive thinking while I take the low road by disrupting the office and laughing at others’ expense!

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Now that you know what I do for fun, I encourage you to add to the list in the comments…

Rapid Fire Learning | August 2007

Ok, so I am a little late.  Dean will understand, he is just that kind of guy.

Really neat things have been happening over at JJL and right here in my little world.  It seems like I have found myself in the midst of so many new things that I hope I can keep it down to five.

Over at JJL, we have been talking about things we need to unlearn.

1. Phil asked the great question – “How do you raise your lid?”  I was confronted head on with the fact that I need to unlearn holding it shut.

2. Joanna taught me a few things when she discussed the power of should

Sometimes it can feel like tangleweed, wrapping itself around hopes, dreams and possibilities, stifling the life out of us with requirements and instructions and obligations.

She’s right – why worry about the “I should?” I have plenty to do with the stuff that “I am.”

3. I discussed how I need to unlearn mediocrity. You know, that fantastic waste of time that is just getting by instead of going big.

There are some things that I have learned – this month they are fun things. Timothy is right – you just have to laugh sometimes.

4. Yoga is hard

 5. There are few things cooler than a froggy tape dispenser.

Warning – Yoga is NOT for wimps

While I was pregnant with our second daughter, my body did a strange thing…it’s mass increased by 80 pounds.  Hmm.  Pregnant causes some of that.  Eddy’s Double Chocolate Chunk and McDonald’s french fires causes the rest.  Who knew?

Anyway, I got real serious about taking off that baby weight.  In the process, I learned that not only do I like weight training, but it works really well for my body makeup.  Coupled with the fact that I have always been fairly strong, this regimen seemed like a good fit.

So that’s what’s bee going on over at the Energy Oasis.  Some treadmill, some ab work, lots of weights.  But, I am fairly close to my goal and really have the luxury of just maintaining.  Hmmm.  Maybe I don’t have to lift all the time.  I joined a great gym and they have Yoga.  Yoga.  Nice, relaxing, stretch, inhale the good, exhale the bad, find your center Yoga.

HA!  Yoga is hard!  Who knew?  You did probably, but I didn’t.  Downward Dog for 10 breaths and my arms felt like jello. (There has to be an I can has cheezburger caption in that last sentence somewhere).

The class was so hard that I stayed after to make sure I was doing it right.  I was and it was.  But Rorie was awesome.  She was excited it was my first class, encouraged me to keep coming back, and said it would get easier.

It better.   Don’t know how long I can live with the “kicked by a horse” feeling.

The Flip Side by Flip Flippen

Hold on a sec while I figure out where this fantastic recommendation came from.  This book was so good I have to make sure I get this right.

Found it!  Dewayne Melancon from Genuine Curosity (and fellow JJL contributor I might add) raved about this book back in July.  Now, I think Dewayne is a pretty smart fella and the different approach the book seemed to have intrigued me.

Unfortunately, I realized that I am a bit critical.  This came as no surprise to my husband.  So, now that I have learned this about myself, I will continue with the critique review.

Flip points out an idea that is so basic, I forehead slapped myself when I read it.  Strengths are great.  Know what they are, build on them, love them, give them cute little pet names (exaggeration mine).  But your constraints, or weakness, will stop you cold.

He goes through a list of what he calls “The Top Ten Killer Constraints.” Hold on to your ego, because one a few of these are yours.  No worries, he explains, everybody has ’em, most have a few, and you only need to work on one at a time.

There are a few key features that make this book great

  • He encourages the use of a friend.  Nobody knows us better than those we around everyday.  They see things about us we don’t see.  Pick somebody you trust and get real honest.
  • Questionnaires.  Not real sure if that’s you?  No problem.  The end of each constraint has  a check list.  Mark the items that are true and mark your score.
  • TrAction Plan. The first question my husband asked was, “Does he just tell you how messed up you are or does he actually help you fix it?” He actually helps.  TrAction Plans are a stroke of genius and madly helpful – see how uncritical I’m being 🙂
  • Writing Style.  This is more a statement about my preferences.  Flip feels like he is in the room.  You don’t feel a pretense or a judgement.  Just a real cool guy that happens to know a few things looking to help you out. 

I have made a promise to never write a review for a book I didn’t like.  I just don’t see the point.  Leave that up to others who get paid for it. However, I don’t just like this book.  I think it is a near critical read.  Don’t want to buy one? I’ll lend you mine – as long as you promise not to read the notes in the margins.

The Secret by Rhonda Byrne

I will admit, I probably read this one long after everybody else had. These kinds of books make me skeptical and therefore do not tend to rank high on my “to do” list. However, after hearing The Secret mentioned what felt like a gazillion times in less than a week, I figured I had better at least know what everybody else was talking about.

I had seen clips from the movie and understand that some like to movie better than book for whatever reason. I am not one of those people. The idea was already close to over the top for me that the dramatic flair of the film shoved it right over the edge.

But, I still felt the need to read the book and I am very glad that I did.

It is not a complicated read. Actually it is very easy with a lot of repetition. But that’s the point as far as I saw it. We are so busy in our daily lives that we over complicate and overlook. The simplicity made it obvious and the repetition ensures we don’t miss the point.

If you are late on the list like I am, let me catch you up. The Secret focuses on the Law of Attraction. Basically it is power of intention, positive thinking, and harnessing the might that is in your brain. Seems quite typical until you realize that they are talking about more than just having a good attitude or a more positive day. They are talking about mind blowing, life altering occurrence.

Stories are recounted of money gained, ills healed, success realized. The claims are truly amazing.

I will say that I am not all in when it comes to this train of thought. There is an action step that, while implied, is not explicitly directed. I am a firm believer in positive thought and understand the role of intention (thanks to Kirsten). But my Craig Harper side insists that it is only half the battle.

However, I read The Secret not to obtain a full circle of ideas. I read it to hone my ability to train my mind to move in a positive direction. It accomplished that. I will read it again and would suggest that most people read it. I took valuable insight away from the read…the rest, I left for others who may find value in it.

Total Eclipse of the Kid

The moon has just disappeared.  What an awesome occurrence!  I am typically up very early.  However, on this morning, I have company.

Hubby loves an eclipse.  The older kids find it fascinating.  They have all found it a worthy reason to get out of bed early.  It is true that Savannah wasn’t so easy to convince.  However, a hearty “the moon is disappearing!” from yours truly did the trick.

Watching the moon disappear, seeing it totally gone, and knowing it would soon reappear reminded me of everything I have ever heard about raising children.

I watched them outside.  The funny part was they weren’t sure if it was night or morning, yesterday, today, or tomorrow.  They were very interested in the moon at times, in shadow play at others.  The fact that everything is louder when it is quiet and some folks were still sleeping was lost on them.  It took a minute for them to adjust their normal volume – which happens to full out.

To me, the best part of the eclipse is not when the moon disappears, but when the shadow does. There is a newness about it. A warm feeling of a promise fulfilled. A realized expectation. This wonderful excitement is both welcomed and cautioned in my thoughts. Especially when it comes to my children. I wonder how true to form my experience will be the first time, then the second, and third, then fourth.

I am nervous about the times when the young people I thought I knew will disappear.  I am concerned about the shadows that will inevitably come into their life.  I am interested if it will be as rare for them as it is the moon.  I hope it will be as fast.

I am not looking forward to the days when the brain aliens invade my children and turn them into raging hormonal teenagers that desire nothing more than to find all the ways that I am wrong.  But, I suppose those shadows are essential for the process of breaking free.  I can only hope that they occur on a designated day, with plenty of warning, between the hours of 5 and 7 AM.

I am looking forward to the time when they emerge – new and confident, bright and alive.  I hope it is all they want it to be and that I am a competent guide.